How to Stop Beating Yourself Up After Social Situations
You get home from a social event, and instead of relief, the beating begins. You replay every exchange, cringe at every perceived misstep, and deliver a ha...
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How to Text and Message Without Overthinking Every Word
For many people with social anxiety, the dread has moved onto the screen. A simple text can take twenty minutes to compose, get read and reread and edited...
Thoughts Are Not Facts: A Simple Idea That Changes Everything
Here is a small sentence that, taken seriously, can change your whole relationship with social anxiety: a thought is not a fact. It is a suggestion your mi...
How to Deepen a Conversation From Small Talk to Real Talk
Small talk is the doorway; it is not the room. Many people get stuck forever on the threshold, trading pleasantries with the same acquaintances for years w...
How to Keep a Conversation Going Without Panicking
Once a conversation has begun, a new fear arrives: what if it dies? What if there is an awkward silence, or I run out of things to say? For anxious people...
Perfectionism and the Fear of Not Being Enough
Underneath a great deal of social anxiety runs a hidden engine, and its name is perfectionism. Not the healthy pursuit of excellence, but the harsh, anxiou...
Loneliness Is Common, and It Is Not a Verdict on You
Loneliness carries a special sting because it seems to say something shameful about you: that you are unwanted, that everyone else has the connections you...
You Cannot Be Liked by Everyone, and That Is Good News
There is a hard and freeing truth waiting at the bottom of the fear of rejection, and once you truly absorb it, rejection can never mean quite the same thi...
How to Handle Group Settings and Parties Without a Safety Person
Many socially anxious people can manage a party or a group, but only with a safety person: a partner or close friend they cling to the whole time, whose pr...
How to Support Someone With Social Anxiety
If someone you care about lives with social anxiety, you may feel unsure how to help. You want to support them, but you worry about pushing too hard or, at...